I’m 29 years old and I’m standing in a freezing playground, in heels, with a hangover, holding a melting ice cream.I’m four months into a relationship with a man who has a child who I’m about to meet for the first time and, to be honest, I’m bricking it.You have to make sure you're serious and your partner is serious before you bring the kiddos into the mix.It's not fair to the kids if you aren't going to stick around.
Today it’s not uncommon to see people who are in relationships with those who already have kids.Women tend to overlook these, because the situation isn't exactly what they thought it would be like. Depending on whether he has full or partial custody of his child, it can severely limit the amount of time he spends on leisure activities.We'll explore the advantages and disadvantages to juggling co-parenting and dating below. The simple act of going out on a date may require him to hire a babysitter or ask family and friends to watch his child for a few hours, which is sometimes a major inconvenience.Knowing that I was moving back to a small town after years of living in cities, I looked at my therapist and said: "I can't date someone who has children. And while I was in love with both the man and the kid, I was totally lost. There is nothing wrong with single or divorced parents. But my friends back home in the small town I was moving back to? He had a son with his ex-girlfriend, who I also remember from my past. I was in a relationship with a man who had a 10-year-old son. I was 29 years old, and the majority of my friends in Chicago were childless or childfree, whichever term you prefer. I knew that by moving back here, I was inviting many children into my day-to-day life -- and probably my love life, too. Despite all of my fears, I reconnected with this man from my youth.